Shine when you can

by Starla J. King on May 8, 2015

I hadn’t been in touch with her — at all — for about 25 years, yet ever since I found out (3 days ago) that my long-ago friend died, she’s been on my mind.

An eating disorder stole her away, unbeknownst to me.  The only version of her I knew was a young, vibrant, gentle, powerful, absolutely precious spunk of a “kid” in high school.

I was surprised to hear how drastically she had changed over the years, how mightily she struggled, how challenging her relationships became (and stayed).  But even more, I was surprised to hear how many people said that although they didn’t know her well, and hadn’t been in touch with her for years and years, they felt a great loss with her death.

She shone, Nicole did.  She shone when she could, and that made all the difference for the times when she couldn’t.

Shine when you can, my dear friends.  Just shine when you can.



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