Words to (your)Self

by Starla J. King on May 5, 2011

I received a letter in the mail yesterday.  Business-size envelope.  No return address.  No hint of who or why … except the handwriting looked oddly familiar.

Turns out it was mine.

Almost 3 months ago, at the end of the amazing Starfish Retreat (through Big Fish Nation), we each wrote a letter to ourselves.  We gave them to the retreat leader, Lorin, for safekeeping and I suspect we all quickly forgot about them in the digestion of the retreat experience. 

Until yesterday.   When we received a completely unexpected letter from ourselves.

Dear Starla [mine reads],

You have a purpose — and it is to BE EXACTLY WHO YOU ARE.  Remember what everyone said to you at the Starfish Retreat — about your energy and your genuine caring and the impact you make just by being you.  The most important thing you can do is to keep writing.  Often.  Openly.  Honestly.

And if you get stuck, talk to [name withheld to protect the innocent].  She believes in who you are and what you can do.

Keep taking the next step. You broke an arrow with your throat.

Let the beauty you love be what you do [rumi].

You’ve got this.  Go.

I love you and your Art,


I needed to hear those exact words yesterday.  And today.  And will need them again tomorrow and the next day and the next. 

letter to selfConsider taking 10 minutes — right now — to write a letter from your current self to your future self.  Feel free to use my letter as a template, as long as you change any part that doesn’t feel EXACTLY like you.  Make it yours.  Speak to your own needs.  Speak to your own self.  In your own handwriting.  With your favorite pen.  On a delicious piece of paper or notecard or stationery.

Not feeling it?  Read this amazing post by Nona Jordan to connect with YOU.  Then start writing.

It might feel weird, uncomfortable, and even a little too intimate for yourself.  But I can assure you that when you receive your letter months from now, it will be exactly what you needed to hear. 

Seal your letter in an envelope, address it, stamp it, and give it to someone you trust to put it in the mail at a future point of their choosing. 

Write your letter to you.  Now.  Give yourself the chance to be exactly what you need. 

You’ve got this.  Go.

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Nona May 5, 2011 at 7:33 am

You are amazing- and so wise!! You DO have this thing. How could you not? There is no one who can be you, like you.

Love, nona


Starla J. King May 5, 2011 at 8:05 am

Nona, dear one, thank you! Seeing you here reminds me of that post you wrote a while back… “The exquisite light that shines in you.” http://nonajordan.com/2011/02/23/the-exquisite-light-that-shines-in-you/

My readers should read that for inspiration before writing their letters. HEY *lightbulb* … gotta go edit my post. 🙂


Lynn Griffith May 5, 2011 at 8:07 am

Wow with a capital W!!! Did the exercise with you, my friend. I only hope that when I receive my letter it has the impact yours did. If so, I plan on writing myself every two months!!! Great piece, Starla.


Starla J. King May 5, 2011 at 9:54 am

Lynn, I bet you will be AMAZED at the impact of your own letter. Mine brought tears to my eyes.

I too was just this morning thinking that I want to write myself a letter every few months. LETS DO IT!!!


rebecca p cohen May 5, 2011 at 8:16 am

I suspect leaving where I am today and seeing your post is the perfect pause to write my letter. Thank you.


Starla J. King May 5, 2011 at 9:56 am

Rebecca, I think today is indeed the perfect pause for letter-writing. Don’t be shy with yourself… you will thank yourself for that courage when you receive your letter!


Mary Green May 5, 2011 at 9:08 am

Great idea! I love your letter because it loves you. Self-love is precious; the fuel that keeps on giving, a buffer that absorbs the bumps. Keeping the self-love bucket filled —Ah! There’s the rub. The letter from me to me is an awesome idea. Thank you, Sweet Woman!


Starla J. King May 5, 2011 at 9:57 am

Mare, what a beautiful description.. yes, my letter loves me… and it kinda blew me away when I read it because I had totally forgotten the sentiment, the feeling in it.

Cannot WAIT to hear how your letter to self goes. I’ve seen your writing… let it express the most loving parts of you.


Michele May 5, 2011 at 9:14 am

So, so amazing! What a gift to receive such a loving letter from yourself. Beautiful Starla. Thank you for sharing it. 🙂


Starla J. King May 5, 2011 at 9:59 am

Michele, I can’t recommend this exercise highly enough. I’ve been carrying my letter around with me since I got it yesterday and it really does make an impact!

I so hope you will do this exercise, my dear.


Lorin May 6, 2011 at 12:57 am

smilin’ at the impact we can have on ourselves… you have on you….



Starla J. King May 6, 2011 at 11:22 am

YES, Lorin!!! 🙂


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