What do you want?

by Starla J. King on April 11, 2011

What do you want?

I mean truly deep-down soul-bursting longing yearning desiring cellular-level core-of-your-being want.

What.  Do.  You.  Want?

In a recent coaching call, my biz/life coach asked me that — and asked me so sincerely, earnestly, compassionately, “Starla, what do you want?” — that my heart melted and my immediate answer was not words but tears.

We all need and deserve to have someone give us the gift of asking, soul to soul, “[your name here], what do you want?” That question, asked earnestly, honors the deepest parts of our existence… the parts that spend so much time waiting to be seen, heard, felt, noticed in some way.

What. Do. You. Want?

We spend so much of our time striving, reaching, accomplishing, going for that holy grail of… what, exactly? Enough money to pay the bills, sure. But beyond that, what is it? What is it that turns your hamster wheel of daily life into an inspired path of purpose?

What. Do. You. Want?

The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.
– Rumi [from The Essential Rumi]

"want"Yes, the breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you, as it reflects the whispers inside you. So ask yourself, then listen to the breeze’s delicious tease of answers to “What. Do. You. Want?”

And as you listen for the answer, please, please don’t go back to sleep. Your heart so wants to be heard.

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Barbara April 11, 2011 at 10:41 am

Starla, your question today, “What do you want?” is truly thought-provoking! As a Mom, wife and friend, I’m so programmed to think of others’ needs before my own that thinking about my WANTS is an unpracticed idea. It will take me all day (maybe longer) to ponder that very complex question and define what I truly want. Thanks for asking!!


Starla J. King April 11, 2011 at 11:23 am

Barbara, it really is an “unpracticed” thing, isn’t it? I love that you used that term, because I’ve found that answering that question truly does take practice in order to get to that deep down core-level answer. And then it can change.

You’ve honored yourself so beautifully today by opening up to this question!


Matthew Winkler April 12, 2011 at 8:17 am

The key that unlocks it all. Also the reason that Eat, Pray, Love spent 200+ weeks as a best seller.


Starla J. King April 12, 2011 at 9:29 am

Matt…ah, one of the great existential questions of life. 🙂


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