It’s All About You

by Starla J. King on May 25, 2011

So here’s the thing:  You can either freak out and bolt, or stay grounded and embrace.

Embrace others’ examples of brilliance, that is.

There’s this thing that happens when we find our voicethe form of expression and the message that is uniquely OURS.  We start creating our platform, honing our skills/talents/gifts, sharing ourselves confidently (and often brilliantly) with the world.  We believe we can make a difference, and that the most powerful way to do that is through our own unique approach. 

Until we start comparing.

Comparison is the introduction of flesh-eating bacteria into the skin of your authentic expression.

That phenomenal photo you just took of morning sunlight kissing a dewdrop?  Mehh.  Maybe not so gorgeous after all when you compare it to your brother’s (let’s call him Steven.  Hypothetically, of course) beautifully haunting photos of majestic castles, backdrops to the spirits of yesteryear whispering in the stone shadows of Scotland.

Or that blog post you just wrote that gave you chills as you “dictated” it from somewhere beyond your own literary consciousness?  Pffhhhh.  Really just barely-intellectualized scribbles when compared to pretty much anything Danielle LaPorte, the goddess-like (yet oh so earthy) maven of White Hot Truth creates.

Or that business idea you just had a Eureka! moment about that could possibly just maybe be THE idea you’ve been looking for for years?   Kkkktch.  Lightweight entrepreneurial dribble when compared to the pure genius of [insert name of envy-inducing, ridiculously successful self-starter here].

Nothing crushes the sacred moments of full-being inspiration quite like comparison.  

When we compare our voice to others’, chances are  we will have the urge to freak out and bolt — turning our strong, vibrant, impactful voice into a nervous whisper.

On the other hand, when we simply stay grounded in the presence of greatness and embrace it, we become inspired.  Our voice takes on a richer timbre, the vibrations spreading deeper and wider, and We Are Heard.

You see… your voice?  It is all about you. 

It is all about what you do and know and express in a way that nobody else on earth does or even can do because they simply are …  not … you.

“When inspiration touches talent, she gives birth to truth and beauty” — Robert McKee

So step away today from comparison and let your talent be touched by inspiration.  Your voice — your truth and beauty — needs to be heard. 

We’re listening…

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Jean May 25, 2011 at 5:12 pm

so, like, I think I am now, this very moment in the presence of brilliance. Thx for your words Starla.
love ya,


Starla J. King May 25, 2011 at 7:21 pm

Ah, Jean, thank you dear woman. And btw, I’m loving “watching” you find your new voice. It. Is. Beautiful.


Jean May 25, 2011 at 5:12 pm

so, like, I think I am now, this very moment in the presence of brilliance. Thx for your words Starla.


rebecca p cohen May 25, 2011 at 5:58 pm

And thus having you as a guest on Wish it, Dream it, Do it! to discuss authenticity as a big part of pursuing one’s dreams is -WOW – simply perfect. Everybody, mark your calendars!

Thank you for this post Starla; so, so helpful.


Starla J. King May 25, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Rebecca, you have been such a huge support/inspiration in the area of authenticity! Thrilled to be an upcoming guest on your radio show!


hypothetical May 25, 2011 at 7:54 pm


You shine.

(not) Steven


Starla J. King May 26, 2011 at 11:46 am

Dear Hypothetical. I think I love you. 🙂


Elizabeth K May 29, 2011 at 9:33 am

Wow! Thank you thank you for this post! Got me past my freak & bolt:)


Starla J. King May 29, 2011 at 9:41 am

Elizabeth — YES!! Go show yourself how brilliant you are!


Donne Davis June 15, 2011 at 12:35 am

“Comparison is the introduction of flesh-eating bacteria into the skin of your authentic expression.”
WOW! Brilliant! I’m posting this line on my computer to help me break my habit.
I’m glad we get to hear YOUR voice in all its splendor.


Starla J. King June 15, 2011 at 8:15 pm

Donne, dear one…SO pleased that you found inspiration here! That phrase just showed up for me, btw… the magic of allowing writing to happen.


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