How to Be You

by Starla J. King on January 26, 2011

Odd title for a blog post?  Maybe. 

But think about it — don’t we spend an awful lot of time trying to figure out just how to be?   How to be successful… happy … loved … [insert dreamy words here]?

Here’s the thing.  All of those things happen so much easier when we commit to simply being ourselves.  Being ourselves.  Piece o’ cake.  Just be me.  Gotcha.  Comin’ right up.



How do I do that?

(Now the blog post title isn’t so odd, is it?)

You dig deeeep into the strong burly place inside you and find your courage.  Then you put it on like a pair of bada** boots.  And you WEAR IT.  You wear that courage to remind you that whoever, whatever, however you are at any given moment is EXACTLY HOW YOU BE YOU.

Still not sure what “being you” looks like?  Meet Fabeku Fatunmise  (yes, he’s a real person… a very very real person)…  Fabeku the drummer guy of Sankofa Song Sound Healing (tag line “Less stuck. Less struggle. More awesome“).   Meet him by reading his latest blog post, “Doctor Awesome’s Seven Lessons in Extraordinariness” (click here).

I’m serious.  Go there now.  Read the entire post.  Or at least read the first sentences because you won’t be able to stop.  Here, I’ll prove it…. and I quote (directly from Fabeku’s blog post):

So I had a root canal two weeks ago.

Best. Dental experience. Ever.

No lie.

My tooth met a tricksy invisible olive pit and went boom.

That part totally sucked.

But the rest of it?


And he goes on like this to “rock a hardcore lesson in how business should be done.” 

Why am I so taken with his writing?   In part because I love what he has to say — practical, real, and deep insights about business and life.  And because he is being TOTALLY HIMSELF… totally unique, totally unconventional.   Read him — you’ll see what I mean.  

Now go on with your bad self and just BE YOU! 

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Fabeku Fatunmise January 27, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Loved your post. And your smartness. And your kindness. Thanks you.


Starla J. King January 27, 2011 at 4:45 pm

Fabeku, in the flesh! well, not quite, but you get the point.

Here’s to REAL. Thanks for the inspirationS (plural, definitely plural!)


Mary Green January 27, 2011 at 9:00 pm

One of my favorite passages from the Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams comes to mind:

“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”


Starla J. King January 28, 2011 at 7:02 pm

Oh, Mary, this is PERFECT PERFECT PERFECT!!!!!!


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